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inIn making personal decisions, I don’t rely on other people’s advice. I usually ask my hubby who can really give me some wise advices or my mother if it is some major decision. At work, it is wise to just trust your own judgment rather than listen to a secondhand opinion. I like to test it on my own so that when it fails, it’s only me…I don’t need to point fingers and things can get messy when you start pointing. I sometimes have more mistakes when I listen to others.
How do I make up my mind? I surround myself with information. I give myself time to understand the problem. If other people brings in their own opinion— even if you didn’t ask for it (and they even feel good after assuming they gave fail-proof advice) hah!, I look for distorted facts and think how twisted people can give such an advice. Hahahaha! Really, some can really be pushy with their advices. But unless you are really convinced how these people can help you, you can listen to them and make your own decisions. Right or wrong, you only have yourself to blame if the outcome is less than favorable.
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inWhen I hear the word “inner debt” –I’m not sure if that’s the right translation of “utang na loob”, I may say that the person telling that– must have thought he has done something gigantically for your benefit.
Well, let’s just say that if a person is willing to help, he should not expect something in return. Do you help a person in the basis that he’ll help you someday?
For example: Promotion – if someone is promoted it is based on his merits because the one who recommended him thinks that he can be an asset to an institution. That is normal support for the knowledge that if the person is promoted or hired it will benefit the institution .I think the concept of inner debt arises when the person expects repayment for EXTRA FAVORS and the person given favor will be bound forever to be thankful . There’s the conflict because you cannot own others in your mind. Get rid of the illusion that just because someone work with or for somebody, that someone owe that somebody, something.
I only have one life and to let someone take control even if that someone thinks I owe anything to him IS REALLY FOOLISH.